Below is a scene from the 1999 film Instinct, starring Anthony Hopkins and Cuba Gooding Jr.
I think we are all in an illusion of how much control we really have of our lives.
I believe we are all able to make choices. We choose where we go to school, where we live, where we work, who we marry, how many kids we have, who are fiends are, what we do as extracurricular activities.
But I think society controls all of theses choices.
If you choose to go to college, you have to fill out an application and be accepted, then you have to have tuition money and if you don't, you apply for scholarships or loans. You are asking for permission to go to the school of your choice.
Based on where you are able to go to college, this then determines where you will work.
When you are looking for work, you have to send in your resume and sell yourself to your employer in hopes they will choose you.
Based on where you work, this then determines the kind of house you are able to buy and in what neighborhood you buy it in. You of course have to get a loan from the bank to buy that house, asking permission for the $. And you think the house is yours, but if you stop making payments, you lose your house.
Same thing applies to the car you would like to buy.
You may even likely choose your spouse based on your economic status and then how many kids who can have. (Some people this does not apply to.)
Now of course as you are living you life based on the choices that you made after getting permission as you went along, if you choose to break the rules that society has provided for you to follow, you then lose all your control and all your freedoms.
Think about it.